Progress Over Perfection

Good Morning. As I was about to fall asleep at 4 AM after Harry took a trip to the dairy queen last night (credit goes to my cousin Amber for calling it this LOL) I was thinking to myself how lucky Sam and I are to have a baby that eats and then falls right asleep at night. KISS OF DEATH. Of course, instantly I heard Harry making noise. Lets just say I’ve pretty much been up since 2:45 am…God Bless Coffee.

Good thing about being up in the wee hours of the morning? Silence, time to browse all the home goods stores online, time to plan the upcoming week, and time to think.

Sam and I are trying hard to decorate our house (we’ve lived here almost 4 years and nothing we own matches). I have zero design style. Sam redid our basement bathroom last fall/winter and I love it. It’s dark gray, has a heated floor, and is real cozy to me. But it still needs to be decorated. Think art, a mirror, and succulents. Friday, I went to Target to buy a storage organizer for towels and other bathroom necessities. I grabbed what I thought was a black cube organizer.

Once home and assembled, I realized it was dark brown. You’ve got to be kidding me. Sam pointed out right on the box it stated “espresso”. How was I supposed to know espresso meant brown? My design style SUCKS. I need serious help. I just want my house to look like Chip and Joanna Gaines decorated it. So, I’ve started searching Pinterest for ideas and we will see what we come up with…stay tuned for updates!

Anyway, my main point of this post is to talk about getting back in shape post baby and making progress over being perfect. I’ve been thinking a lot about how I love working out but how I also need to ease back into it after giving birth. It’s been almost 5 weeks since Harry arrived and I’m in that antsy mode to hit it hard. I’m trying to find the balance between being active and taking it one day at a time (word to your mother, don’t scroll the search page on Instagram if you don’t want to feel like a slug/compare yourself to the IG fitness models…sheesh).

You see, I love being active. I enjoy running, lifting weights, cardio, hiking, biking…everything. But having a child to watch, time is very limited for squeezing in sweat sessions. I either have to go at like 3 AM after a feeding (Hell to the no), go when Sam gets home from work (also hard because I’m usually V tired by then), do an at-home workout (OK option but I like the gym because it has barbells), or just tell myself I’ll try again tomorrow. This has happened multiple days and I’m actually A-OK with it.

So far I’ve found a pretty good balance. Harry, Ruthie, and I usually get in a nice walk every day. I do bicep curls with Harry (he’s a great 9 pound weight), and I’ve made it to the gym twice. I’ve also gone on some lovely little runs with Ruthie, and done a bundle of at-home workouts while Harry sleeps. I really feel like I gave myself enough time to recover from child birth and am super excited for a fresh start.

I’ve also learned that now I must make my workouts super efficient. I like adding little sprint sessions into my lifting sessions due to time constraints. Friday night I did a fun little workout at Anytime that looked like this:

5 rounds AFAP (as fast as possible):

6 Squat cleans

12 Box Jumps (I’m still doing step ups)

200 m sprint

Then: 5 sets

2 Thrusters + 2 Back Squats

It was a blast, I felt like I got a good sweat in about 30 minutes, and it was progress. Each day is a win in my books. Each day is a step in the right direction.

As for nutrition…I try to eat well but I feel like I’ve been eating way more desserts since Harry came along. I mean, I ate an entire 9×13 pan of pumpkin cake by myself in a week. I ate 8 chocolate chip cookies in 3 days. I’ve had a heaping bowl of cookies and cream ice cream the past 2 nights topped with Halloween candy. Not to mention the oatmeal monster cookie bars my mom made…I think I’ve had about 10 of those since Thursday. And the bowls of cereal at 2 AM. Holy monkies that’s a lot of treats. These snacks are just so easy to grab when I’m feeding Harry and suddenly find myself ravenous. Plus, I feel like all veggies make me and Harry gassy. So what else am I supposed to do!? 🙂 I’ll try to reel in the sugar this week…try.

I was looking through my pictures this morning (duh, I’ve been up for hours) and came across some photos from pre-pregnancy:

during pregnancy:

and post-pregnancy:

And you know what…I’m not mad about how things have changed. I still don’t get where all the skin goes from my big bump. Or if that line down my belly will ever go away. But it’s kind of neat. Also a reminder of how insane our bodies are and how they can bring new life into this world.

So here’s to setting goals for this week to eat a few more veggies (and still enjoy a cookie or 5), getting to the gym 2 times, taking each day at a time/focusing on progress over being perfect, and enjoying all the snuggles with Harry and Ruthie.

Have a lovely day and Go Pack!

PS please excuse my rambling post today…I’m hopped up on caffiene.

XO

-Hales

 

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Give Yourself Credit

Hello. Here we are again, Friday. Sweet because then Sam gets to be home all weekend but also not sweet because time is going way too fast and I’m already getting anxious about going back to work. Just live in the moment right? But that’s freaking hard. Since Harry came a week early, I get to go back to work on Christmas Eve day (I should be thrilled to have a job to go back to) and I’m already crying thinking about leaving my son the day before Christmas. Any helpful tips on how to transition would be greatly appreciated 🙂

So, yesterday Harry and I went to Gramma Dee and Grandpa Fletch’s house for a little visit. Since we still don’t have laundry, I brought along a couple loads and my mom (she’s a literal angel) prepped us a couple meals. Hello instant pot pot roast, chicken pot pie, and these bars!. Our little fam is so lucky to have you mom!

Anyway, while at their house, I got super anxious about little Harry not eating enough. He has some super great feedings where I’m like, “man, we got this down.” And then he has a bunch of shitty feedings where I’m like “I suck, he’s going to lose weight and have to go to the hospital. I’m going to just start feeding him formula.” It seriously stresses me out every single day. I try to remain calm and tell myself he is eating enough since he’s pooping and peeing and he’s not asking for more. But how can I be sure? I just want to weigh him every day to make sure he’s going in the right direction.

To try to relieve some stress, I took myself to the State Park for a nice run/walk (FYI I am incredibly sore today…the hills really got me). The Park is my favorite place to go when I need to chill the eff out because it is beautiful there and during the week it’s pretty much empty. Just me and nature. Let me tell you, for the first half of my run-hike, I could not relax. I kept thinking…what if Harry is hungry (Haley, you left a bottle), what if Harry is crying (Haley, he’s a baby, he’ll probably cry)…Haley, you left your 1 month son, you are a crappy mom (Haley, you are not a crappy mom, you can take an hour for yourself…Haley no you can’t). Yes, these are the exact thoughts that consumed my mind for the first 4 miles.

I even worked myself into a nice headache due to this stress. Then with about 2 miles left, I finally chilled the eff out. IDK what it was but something just changed and I felt calm. I knew Harry was in good hands. He had everything he needed and he’d be alright for an hour.

I just don’t know why I let myself get so stressed. It doesn’t make anything better at all. I feel like one minute I’m so confident in everything, and the next minute I’m in a panic, questioning everything. Ask Sam, he’ll tell you. One day I’m like “OMG Harry slept all day, he is growing!” The next day I’m like “OMG why is Harry sleeping all day? He must be ill?” Or “Harry’s belly is growing, yay!” “Harry’s belly is full of gas, get it out!”

However, I feel like Harry can sense my stress and that stresses him out (I know Ruthie can sure sense my stress) so I need to keep reminding myself to settle down. Plus, I hate being stressed…I’m mean, I stinky sweat, I get headaches. STOP BEING A STRESSED LADY, LADY.

So, how does one not stress with a baby? Take a stress relief bath? Drink a glass of wine? Talk to my support system? Go for a walk (LOL see above)?  Sure, these things might help temporarily but I don’t think it’s possible to not be stressed. But I’m going to try my best to remind myself that we’re doing the best we can.

This is all new territory and we will figure it out one hour, one day at a time. As long as Harry is fed, changed, warm, and snuggled, he is OK. Being a mom is the most rewarding yet hardest thing I’ve ever experienced but us moms need to give ourselves some credit. Bringing a human into this world is INSANE. This little being that was growing inside is now on the outside and we have so much to figure out together.

Here’s to all the mom’s out there. You are amazing. You’re doing the best job. Keep your head up because it’s not easy but it’s def worth it.

XO

-Mama Hales

Holy Buckets Harry’s 1 Month!

I know people say time flies when you have a kid but shoot, time REALLY flies when you have a kid. Hare Bear turns 1 month in 58 minutes and I’m crying inside. I can’t believe you’ve already been here for an entire month…what was life like without you little guy?

To celebrate, we went to Harry’s weight check this morning. I was hoping he’d be at least 8 pounds 6 ounces…he shocked me and was a whopping 8 pounds 10 ounces! He’s gaining weight finally and I couldn’t be happier. He’s also about 23 inches long and has a good sized head but even better sized appetite (just like his dad).

I am still feeding him about every 2-3 hours except now he’s started to give me noticeable cues for when he’s hungry instead of me choosing when to feed…much easier that way. I still am supplementing with a bottle after every feeding but he hasn’t been taking much from that. I only pump when my boobs feel enormous (ever other feed) or he drinks a ton from the bottle. So, feedings have basically gone from an hour to 25 minutes. Swell.

I did take a few pics of Harry today because, well, duh. He’s a month old and kind of a cutie.

I don’t really know exactly what Harry likes/dislikes because he doesn’t speak yet but here’s my guesses:

Likes: Milk (duh), car rides, walks in nature, his sister Ruthie, snuggling, his dad, pulling hair, being fed, reading stories, being held, and watching sports.

Dislikes: Being changed, hiccups/burping, beans, cold hands and feet, and the Vikings.

Now to celebrate everyone surviving having a baby for a month, I’m off to bake some Chocolate Chip cookies and spaghetti. Have a magnificent Monday night!

Toodles!

-Hales

Sunday’s are for Chores and Shopping

Good morning! I’ve been up since 5:30 am feeding a hungry baby and now I’m wide awake and ready for a Sunday funday!

I’m also very excited because I just ordered these shoes and can’t wait to try them on. I don’t know about you but I’m very into online shopping…except when you have to make returns. I hate that.

Yesterday was a busy day in the wakefield household. You see, having a new baby means lots of laundry because lots of poop and pee and spit up. So, it was a very convenient time for our washer to break…NOT. Sam thinks it’s my fault because I shoved a huge comforter and pillow in there but I think it’s time was just up. So we took Harry to Home Depot yesterday and let him pick out the new washer. He did a good job and didn’t even pick the most expensive one…win! He also picked a dryer so we got that too…you know you’re grown up when you get excited about a new appliance.

Yesterday morning I also attended my first Alchemy class in what feels like a year (I think it’s been like 3 months?). It was hard and I realized my core is SO weak after having Harry (Had to do planks from my knees!). I took it easy, used lighter weights, and modified movements I wasn’t comfortable with. It was really nice to get in a group setting and get in a good sweat. But holy cow am I sore today…a good sore though.

This morning it is freaking freezing out so I decided to skip my Costco Pumpkin muffin and make a large bowl of oatmeal instead. I was feeling nice and spicy so I zipped that bowl up with some lovely flavors. It looked a little something like this:

1/2 cup of oats

Large sprinkle of tumeric

Large sprinkle of cinnamon (Vietnamese from Penzy’s…only cinnamon you should ever buy)

*I never measure my spices, I just dump them in*

Handful of crasins

I topped this with some homemade pumpkin butter and local real honey. YUM. I always forget how much I love oats until I eat them. Nice and warm, perfect for a chilly fall day.

Speaking of chili, I love chili so much but am trying not to eat it on account of beans and breastfeeding. So today I’m hoping to prep my other fave fall soup from PaleOMG. This soup is so easy to make and I buy the already chopped butternut squash. HIGHLY recommend. I’m also planning on making something in the slow cooker because I haven’t used that once this fall, some chocolate chip cookies, and overnight golden milk oats because now I’m on the oat train. Oh, and maybe some fun fetti donuts!

Sunday’s are normally for Football but not today. Since our washer isn’t going to arrive until Nov 6th, I’m using my parents washer to do laundry a couple times a week (I feel like a college student). So today we will be making the trek to Hudson for laundry, some Harry introductions to friends, and *hopefully* a nice walk at the State Park. Yahoo! Sounds like a fun filled Sunday if you ask me!

Now I gotta go #2 because I had coffee and oats and that’s a deadly combo…TMI but who cares I’m sure you’re about to poo too (pretty sure Harry’s pooping right now too).

Have a lovely Sunday my friends. Thanks for reading, I appreciate you all.

XO

-Hales (and a big #2)

Harry is 3 weeks!

HAHA funny thing…when I typed that title I accidentally typed months instead of weeks. No, Harry is not 3 months yet…thank goodness.

We had a busy but lovely weekend with family and friends. Friday started with a coffee date with some girlfriends at Fairgrounds. Such a cute place, Harry wants to go back weekly (even though he didn’t see the place due to his eyes being closed the whole time). I got the best mocha complete with a large chunk of chocolate. Highly recommend.

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Sleepy Harry

This was the first weekend Sam was able to be home the whole weekend so it was very relaxing (he normally has to do some window washing on the weekends for his business) and we had lots of snuggle time with Ruth and Harry on the couch due to the freezing cold and snow…yes, snow.

Aunt Molly came to town Friday for some full blown Harry snuggles and it was great to have her. I wish she could live in my basement and be my full time nanny but lets be real, that isn’t gonna happen.

The whole crew went to our fave local restaurant Moe’s on Friday for dinner. It just happened to be Oktoberfest there so that was a fun time…we did leave before the Polka band started because Harry did not have proper ear attire. But, we did get in on the Oktoberfest specials…hello pretzel with mustard and beer cheese. One of my faves.

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First beer cheese dip in MONTHS…holla.

One thing about having a baby and having to feed him every couple hours is that by the time 8pm rolls around and baby gets his milk, mama is so tired. So I did not make it very long Friday night 😦

Saturday morning we woke up and made a snazzy breakfast of pumpkin blueberry pancakes (my fave recipe from my mom), eggs and veggies, maple sausages, and coffee. The pancakes turned out so good and I am still eating them today.

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Punkin Pancakes

Molly and I took Harry and Ruth to the park for a nice walk after breakfast but Harry was a little crabby so we didn’t make it very far before turning around…of course right when we got back to the car he fell asleep. Convenient.

The rest of Saturday was spent at my parents house watching the Brewers and eating the best hamburgers my dad cooked on the grill. Dinner was followed by the best desserts every from San Pedro Cafe in Hudson. If you’re in the area, stop in for the Habenero Chocolate cake and Key Lime Pie. They are my fave but I only get them on my Birthday. YUM.

Aunt Molly also did a nice little newborn photo shoot of Harry this weekend and I am so in love with the photos. Of course he slept through most of the pictures but managed to open those dark eyes up for about 5 pictures. Little buddy.

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Little Lamb

My mom got us this cool first year picture frame and I can’t wait to start filling it up.

So today, I have an appointment with a lactation specialist because our Pediatrician was a little concerned about Harry not being back at his birth weight at our 2 week check up on Friday. She also didn’t like that he wasn’t waking himself up to feed every couple hours (I was having to wake him). I have been breastfeeding him for 10 minutes on each side every 2.5-3 hours and then pumping and feeding him whatever I pump (about 2 oz). Let me tell you, it’s exhausting, my nips are sore, and it feels like all I do is feed this child but I will do whatever it takes to make this work.

I’m really hoping things are going in the right direction because last night he woke himself up 3 times to eat. That’s gotta be a good sign. Hoping he’s at least 8 lbs 1 oz today at his weigh in and we can figure out what’s going on with our feeding sitch. Hoping for the best! He also shits and pees a lot so he’s gotta be getting nourishment. Cmon little buddy, grow!

He has grown an inch already and is in the 94th percentile for his height but his weight is in the 20th percentile.

The rest of today will be filled with a little cleaning, some organizing, a special visit from cousin Amber and little William, and a possible trip to Costco…although I’m really not sure how to bring Harry into Costco. Usually I use the stroller in stores because I’m not confident in putting him in a shopping cart (in his car seat) but I need a 40 lb bag of dog food and that def won’t fit in the stroller….hmm. Any thoughts?

I’m also going to admit I was getting restless and did a tiny 10 minute workout today. It felt so good to move around. I took it easy, drank lots of water and took breaks when needed. It looked a little something like this:

10 min AMRAP

30-20-10 reps

Air Squats

Snatches

Straight Leg Deadlifts

Bent Over Row

*Used 25 pound weight*

Ended with 3 10 second intervals of plank holds (slow and steady wins the race).

I wish you a productive week full of all things you love. Happy half way through October (SLOW down time!).

Toodles!

-The Crew

Recovery

Good morning. I sit here sipping a tumeric mocha hot chocolate (leftover from yesterday morning…so freaking good), thinking about all sorts of things. I’m a big list maker and every day I write down a list of things I want to accomplish in my planner. Most days the items are things like meal prep, workout, laundry, run, and so on. Lately, my lists have consisted of baths, baby feedings, cleaning, laundry, walks, and naps. My how things have changed.

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Christmas Mug! 

As soon as you bring a child into the world, everything changes (for the best). Yes, I still do things for myself but now my baby comes first. Yesterday, Harry had a day. He was gassy, fussy, and nothing seemed to calm him except a ride to grandma and grandpas house. I tried singing to him, snuggling him, feeding him, changing him…he just couldn’t get happy. Normally I’d be a mess. I’d cry, freak out, become extremely stressed….but I’m learning I need to remain calm. Everything will work itself out. He’s a baby and he’s going to have good days and bad and I will take each day as it comes 🙂 He’s just so cute I don’t like seeing him with a sad face.

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Tummy time! He’s already starting to hold his head up for a couple seconds! 

So, now that the baby’s here, I’ve been thinking about my recovery plan. How soon can I get back into working out, eating protein shakes, running…all the things I love to do. I’ve been reading and most things say wait 6 weeks. At first my thoughts were…”6 weeks!? I can’t wait 6 weeks! I will lose all my endurance and muscles and never be able to pick up a weight again.” HAHA Haley, stop. You just pushed a baby out of yourself. Give yourself a break (a constant daily reminder).

You see, I thought I’d have the baby and be back to working out like normal in a week or two. LOL. Little did I know my body would need time to recover and rest. I tried doing pushups and could hardly eek out 2 from my knees. It also didn’t feel extremely great on my stomach/uterus. So I stopped. At that moment, I vowed to give myself the full 6 weeks to let my body heal. Yes, it’s freaking hard especially because I’m used to going going going all day. It’s hard for me to sit still. But I’m trying. Family walks have been a lifesaver. Lifting the baby has been a good arm workout. I will be alright, I just need to keep telling myself to take it easy and enjoy this time right now.

Like I said above, I’m a big list maker. So I already started making lists of things I do want to do once I’m back on the physical fitness train…it looks a little something like this:

  1. EASE back into it. Start with 10 minute workouts and work up to 20 minutes.
  2. Start with 2-3 days of working out and work up to 5 days.
  3. 2 full rest days a week (soak in the tub, take a walk).
  4. Start with all body weight and slowly add weight when ready.
  5. Focus on strengthening the core muscles.
  6. Running-start with 1 min of running, 1 min of walking and work up to 5 min running (get some solid new kicks for motivation).
  7. Sign up for a spring trail run for motivation (Hello willow river trail run!).
  8. Try a new class (Barre, yoga, flyfeet, orange theory…)
  9. EAT more veggies 🙂
  10. Give myself a break. No negative thoughts.

I’m hoping to get a weight bench at home so I can do this stuff while Harry snoozes but every one I’ve looked at is SO expensive and I’m trying to save money for Harry’s college fund so any recommendations on gym equipment would be gladly accepted.

Now for nutrition, I’m really trying my best to eat nutritious foods that will make Harry nice and strong. Although my sweet tooth has def showed back up since giving birth. AND all I want is milk…chocolate milk, white milk…all milk! So weird because I wasn’t a huge milk drinker before. Maybe it’s because I’m expressing so much milk to my son that my supply is depleted? LOL.

So meals have looked like this:

Breakfast: 2 eggs with spinach and tumeric + 2 homemade pumpkin donuts + a small coffee or tumeric mocha

Snack: Fruit (apple or banana)

Lunch: Salad or soup (thanks to everyone who has brought us meals!)+ roll or bread + handfull of M&M’s-I haven’t had plain M&M’s for ages and they are seriously the best thing right now.

Snack: Handful of potato chips or bowl of cereal

Dinner: Apple Beef meatballs with gravy, butternut squash, apple crisp, MILK.

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Thanks mom!

As my 29th Birthday is less than a week away, I’m trying to reflect on how I can live my best life for me and those around me. Here’s to making goals/lists, being challenged, exciting adventures, new experiences, and YOLO-ing.

Have a fantastic football Sunday. Go Pack! Go Brew Crew.

XO

-Hales, Ruth (snoring), and Harry (stretching).

 

Baby Harry’s First 12 Days

Hello!

Last night I got almost 7 hours of sleep (2.5 hours at a time) and am finally feeling pretty rested. Introducing coffee back into my life has been really cool and something I look forward to every morning (only 1 cup, don’t worry). I’ve washed myself every day so far except for one stretch where I went 3 days without washing my hair but a little grease is good for everyone sometimes.

Since bringing Harry (Harold?) home from the hospital, things have been pretty great. I’ve only cried 2 times (once because Sam asked me why I saved 1 egg, once because the dog looked so sad and depressed) and am adjusting to life with a tiny human, working husband, and jealous pup. Ruthie does seem to love Harry so much and is getting more adjusted every day. I try to give her lots of pets and kisses and even spoiled her with some new toys.

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The new norm

I’m trying to get us on a consistent feeding schedule and so far it seems to work best every 3 hours. Breastfeeding is tough stuff. Little Harry will latch on and suck for a little but then some times he’ll just sit there. He has been feeding about 30 minutes each time and def likes the left side better than the right (sorry your mom has an inverted nip buddy). Feeding time is so precious because of the little faces he makes and the baby toots he pushes out. I laugh so hard, he’s just so cute.

He did drop a bit of weight his first week (8 lbs 1 oz down to 7 lbs 3 oz) so I was feeding him then pumping, then feeding him what I pumped from a bottle (that could be a song…ya feed, ya pump, ya feed him that pump…whoop, go Harry, go Harry). That fattened him up to 7 lbs 9 oz…YAY! So now we are just trying to strictly bfeed but sometimes he still seems hungry so I give him a little bottle. Again, I’m trying to take each session as a win and remain calm/stress free. If the kid wants more food, give him more food.

The first few days I sucked at putting on diapers. He kept peeing through them (one time during a feeding and it dripped down my leg…how glam) and I couldn’t figure it out. Turns out I wasn’t putting them on high enough in the butt or closing them tight enough…I didn’t want to cut off his circulation but he seems just fine now that I’ve tightened them 🙂

Harry likes his Mama Roo and snoozing in the pack-n-play. He sleeps in his crib at night with his cactus night light and sound soother and I’m thankful we put him in there right away. His room is right next to ours so any time he wakes up we can hear him.

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My snoozing babes ❤

The weather here has been so fall so we’ve been doing some fall baking to stay busy. I made some homemade pumpkin butter and pumpkin donuts. I’m also going to whip up a batch of Grandpa Marion’s chili this afternoon. YUM. OH, I found a recipe for Tumeric Mocha Hot Chocolate I can’t wait to try this weekend. ALL THINGS FALL YO.

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Made frosting instead of Cinnamon Sugar sprinkle…oops!

Other things keeping us busy…visits with many friends and family (we are so thankful for you all and the meals and chats and snuggles you’ve given), walks with Chels and Milo at the park (so nice to talk to another mom), laundry (at least a load a day due to poop explosions and spitup spills), lavender baths, Target runs, vacuuming, walks with Ruthie, closet organization, and goal planning (I want write a book I think). I could get used to this mom life thing 🙂

I am trying to take it easy and stick to walks right now but am itching to get back into working out. I really want to take 6 weeks off to fully recover but it’s hard for me to rest that long. LISTEN TO YOUR BODY.

This weekend mom and dad are maybe going to go on a date…or maybe not. Sam has been so busy with work (school and his new business-squeegeesam.com check it out) so it’s nice to just hangout at home. I also want to have 1 small glass of wine but I’m SO nervous it will affect Harry! People have told me a glass is OK as long as you wait like 2-3 hours to feed but I’m still unsure.

So, that’s about all that’s new with us. Hoping to get to my parents this weekend for a hike then next week Harry is going to take his first road trip to meet my aunts and uncles and grandparents. Can’t wait.

Have a splendid weekend my friends!

XO

-Hales, Harry, and Ruth